Alina Ambrosia* met Dave*, 37, when she was just 12-years-old.
The pair met on their first day of high school after they sat near each other in homeroom and drawn together by the fact that they were both “extremely loud” and what they thought was “hilarious”, they became fast friends.
Once high school had finished, the two remained friends on social media, however, life took them in different directions.
Ambrosia got married and subsequently went through a divorce, and Dave had his own fair share of relationships.
“It was never really the right timing,” Ambrosia said during an interview with TheLatch—.
Recently, the 37-year-old left her career in the media industry to become a courtesan — a high-class sex-worker who works exclusively with wealthy and upper-class clients, working under the name Scarlet on Samantha X’s coveted books as well as working under the name Alina Ambrosia on independent private escort service, Scarlet Blue.
Ambrosia and Dave reconnected recently after he went to her house for dinner.
“We have been inseparable since then!” she said.
Admittedly, even though she’s a personal friend of mine, I wasn’t 100% sure how this type of relationship could work, so once again, we caught up and she answered all my questions about being in a monogamous relationship while working in the sex industry.
AL: Hi Alina, it’s so exciting to hear you’re in a relationship! Can you tell me more about how you got together?
AA: Our friendship started back before we were even teenagers — which I think is adorable.
We have been friends on social media for years now, and we had arranged to meet a few times in the past couple of years, however, it was never really the right ‘timing’ so to speak.
I had been going through a horrible divorce and some very shaky relationships with other men, and I certainly wasn’t in the correct headspace for a proper attempt at being with someone seriously.
We reconnected recently, and he came to my house for dinner. We have been inseparable ever since!
AL: So, does this mean you’re in a monogamous relationship (apart from your work)?
AA: Yes, it sure does which I am delighted by.
After he left that first morning, I sent out some messages advising that I was ‘off the market’. I immediately knew that this was going to be an extremely serious relationship.
AL: What makes the relationship work?
AA: A mutual respect for one another and lots of communication.
He realises that I have a unique job and that there needs to be a huge level of trust and discussion to ensure we are both feeling good and safe in this uncharted territory. So far, so good.
Another thing we really connect on is fitness and good food. We love hiking together, and getting into the great outdoors for a walk or a swim. I love how much we enjoy this together.
He is also an amazing cook, and that is one of my passions too, so we truly enjoy the process of cooking for everyone in his house.
He lives at his sister’s property, and we love prepping food for her, her son and her boyfriend. I love coming together around a table, laughing and enjoying great eats.
“He realises that I have a unique job and that there needs to be a huge level of trust and discussion to ensure we are both feeling good and safe in this uncharted territory. So far, so good.”
AL: Are there any common misconceptions about being in a relationship while working in the sex industry?
AA: Yes! That you can work and fall for someone at the same time.
It is absolutely possible and there are so many other girls in the industry who maintain partners, families and relationships across the board, I realise that love is alive and kicking for sex workers!
I am lucky that I don’t have a huge book of clients, rather I see the same two regularly, so this helps that I am not constantly having to meet new people or look outside of that to keep my lifestyle consistent.
AL: How did you broach the subject about what you do for work with him?
AA: I am extremely open about what I do and I do not feel any shame in being a high-end courtesan.
It is a fun job, but at the end of the day, it is my work and allows me to pay my bills whilst I study, write and do my podcast.
AL: How does Dave feel about what you do?
AA: We have a very open dialogue about it.
Not as in sharing details of bookings, but I am extremely open with him.
For instance, I advise him when I am working and not sugarcoating that by saying “Oh I am going to see a friend” or stupid white lies like that.
It’s a slippery slope when you say things to save someone’s feelings and I won’t disrespect him with those games. He means too much to me, and I don’t want to come from any places of dishonesty.
He calls me a ‘boss lady’ though and he knows that I take my work very seriously, and he is proud of me, the brand and business that I have built and he loves that I am using my time and financial freedom to study and upskill myself so I never have to go back into the world of media ever again.
“It’s a slippery slope when you say things to save someone’s feelings and I won’t disrespect him with those games.”
AL: How do you maintain a “normal” relationship while working?
AA: By setting boundaries. I stick to one to two days on the ‘work’ clock a week and then adhere to my days off.
I prioritise seeing him on the other days, and then we really enjoy our time together.
I ensure I have a bit of ‘me time’ too, so I can do all my study and zone out watching ‘girl TV’ — for example, The Real Housewives of anything! [Laughs]
AL: Would you ever change your line of work for a relationship?
AA: This is my job. I had it before I started dating him and I have been extremely honest about it. There should be no reason to be pushed into stopping — not that he has ever asked.
In the past, I have been told that I was to stop working by a certain point in 2020 — that particular person is no longer in my life.
I will make appropriate decisions for my life, as I go along. I do take on board feedback though and am more than happy to keep the discussion open.
AL: How does sex with him differ to sex with your clients?
AA: The intimacy is next level. The passion is amazing and we just generally have a complete connection, plus a real indicator of just how serious this is is that I enjoy waking up next to him.
I never even slept in bed with my ex-husband of 14 years! We had separate wings of the house [laughs]. I crave waking up being spooned by this guy. It is a very exciting feeling, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
“I crave waking up being spooned by this guy. It is a very exciting feeling, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything.”
AL: How do you navigate jealousy in the relationship?
AA: There is none. He understands that I have a minimal clientele and he understands that it’s just business. That’s it.
AL: Do you reserve certain experiences just for him?
AA: Absolutely. Not giving you those details though [laughs]. Some things are just best kept within our relationship.
AL: In terms of sexual health, do you both get tested regularly?
AA: I am fastidious about sexual health. I go see my doctor once every month or every month and a half.
He is also very health-oriented, so he had a test just recently actually.
I am safe in my work, and again extremely picky on who I see, so the chances of any issues are nil in my world.
*Not their real names
Alina Ambrosia and *Brookelyn Bennett are releasing a podcast called “2 Girls 1 Mike”, coming soon.
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