Grief has been a common theme of 2020. Some people are grieving the loss of their loved ones while many are grieving what they thought their year would look like and the impact the pandemic has had on many of their plans. Despite such collective grief, this feeling isn’t something we discuss very often. It’s usually hidden away and something we work through in private.
In a bid to change this, Sydney locals Sally Douglas and Imogen Carn have created Good Mourning — a podcast that hopes to modernise the conversation around grief while also providing comfort for others who have experienced loss. Good Mourning also aims to be a helpful resource for those supporting loved ones through a tough time.
Douglas and Carn both unexpectedly lost their mothers within the last year, in November 2019 and February 2020 respectively, and found that the grief resources and support groups available didn’t resonate with them as two people in their 30s. And, there wasn’t a platform that discussed grief openly and honestly either. So, the pair have created their own.
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Do you find it hard to take time out from your grief? Sally here. 👋 When I first lost my mum, I had so many practical things to get done, I didn't give myself any "time off" from my grief, which I now realise is so important. I was all consumed by checking off the ever growing to-do list, I didn't prioritise myself. Which wore me out, on top of trying to process what had happened…and the jet lag! Grief can be all consuming and never ending. It's so important to give yourself a break from it, as part of the healing process. For me, it was little things like taking my dogs for a walk, or watching a Netfix comedy, that helped switch my mind off for an hour or two, and take me away from my thoughts and pain. In the end, I really looked forward to those moments of what felt like respite. ✨ For others I've spoken to, it's things like making time for yoga, or taking a long bath. It can be the small things that make a big difference. Throughout the podcast, we'll be sharing ours and our guest's tips on ways to help cope with loss, as well as tips for those supporting someone doing it tough right now. How do you make time for yourself? 💞
“We decided to start Good Mourning to help to encourage an honest conversation around bereavement,” Douglas said in a press release. “There are so many fellow Aussies doing it tough right now, with the pandemic altering the lives of so many.
“Losing a loved one can be incredibly lonely, and by sharing our own personal stories and the stories of others, we hope to shine a spotlight on loss, and help others feel less alone.”
The podcast series launched today, September 18, with three episodes. In the first and second episode, both Douglas and Carn detail their stories of losing their mums and their relationship with grief. Douglas, whose mum passed away from a sudden seizure and Carn, whose mum died unexpectedly by suicide, are candid in these conversations and offer relatable and helpful information.
The third episode features an interview with Brisbane-based stylist, author and podcaster Sally Steele, who shares how her father’s passing transformed her life and career.
While discussing grief might feel foreign to you, listening to Good Mourning might help normalise these feelings and give you the courage to more openly discuss grief with your loved ones and let them know how it affects your day to day life.
If you or anyone you know is struggling and needs support, call Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800 or Lifeline on 13 11 14, both of which provide trained counsellors you can talk with 24/7. You can also speak with someone confidentially at Headspace by calling 1800 650 890 or chat online here.