In an effort to flatten the curve and reduce the growing number of COVID-19 cases in Australia, Sydneysiders are undergoing a lockdown period of two weeks.
Unfortunately (yet completely understandably), this means dating and social interactions, in general, need to take the back seat. But as it would happen, sex toy sales are up now that everyone’s spending more time at home. That or the virus makes people horny. Who’s to say.
Recently, the parent company of Womanizer and We-Vibe and world leader in intimate pleasure products, WOW tech, reported a drastic increase in sales.
“WOW Tech assumes that the need for high-quality individual masturbation increases as couples are less available to see each other due to quarantines increases, and people are less likely to use hook up apps as a precaution.”
And while masturbation is on the rise, so too are the number of couples who will be looking to engage in sex from afar while in self-isolation or quarantine.
“People still crave intimacy, touch and pleasure in times when physical intimacy is tricky. When physical touch is restricted, it’s important to get creative with how you’re having sex, and phone sex is a great way to do this,” Georgia Grace, sex coach and We-Vibe ambassador, tells The Latch.
“While in isolation, you can still build arousal, connect with a lover, articulate your sexual fantasies and feel pleasure in a safe and sexy way.”
Grace’s recommendation? Good old vintage phone sex. “Start slow with a sexy message that can open up the conversation and ease the other person into the idea. This will allow you to build the anticipation, and use dirty talk over text as your foreplay.
“Sexting can escalate to phone sex, or you can do it exclusively until you’re comfortable getting on the phone. Then if you’re both getting into it, suggest an audio or video call.”
How to have phone sex
Whether you’re a seasoned professional or are looking to engage in sexting or phone sex for the first time, Grace’s tips below will have you well and truly on your way to achieving intimacy and sexual connection. Yes, even in a pandemic.
Ask them
This is ideal if you’re a bit nervous or don’t feel like you have the vocab for phone sex. You can ask them what they want, what they’re feeling, how they would want to touch you, what’s turning them on… Ask them questions as a way to keep the conversation going. Then build on what they offer and when they’re speaking, listen to them! Show them you’re actively interested and turned on — and hopefully, they will do the same for you.
Mutual masturbation
You don’t need to say anything if you don’t want to — you could simply masturbate on the phone together. There are some incredible couples vibrators like the Chorus (available at Lovehoney), the most intuitive couples vibrator by We-Vibe, that has an adjustable fit, touch-responsive controls and hands-free vibrations that take sex to a whole new level. Including couples vibrators can make the experience feel a whole lot more pleasurable and connected.
Get creative with your vocab
Pretend you’re an erotic novelist and bring as much sensual description to the experience as you can. Talk about what you’re noticing, what you admire, what you want them to do to you.
Power play
Making your partner dictate where and when you can touch yourself is a great way to make phone sex more interactive and include both parties. Explore different roles, and you may also decide to switch so you both can experience being more dominant or submissive.
“Make sure you are only taking part in activities you are comfortable doing, with people you trust, using secure apps and devices.”
Use toys
Toys can increase the likelihood of orgasming and allow for more areas to be pleasured while on the phone. You can incorporate toys into sex by explaining the details of what you are using and how you are using them. The product I recommend to couples who are separated by distance is We-Vibe’s We-Connect app as it lets you play together, even when you’re apart, and is a sexy way to connect during phone sex. To level up the experience, allow your partner to control your vibes as you control theirs.
Have fun with it
Just like all sexual encounters, it’s OK to laugh! Some moments may be funny, especially if you’re doing something for the first time. You’re human and sex can be humourous.
The current health crisis is evolving rapidly. If you suspect you or a family member has coronavirus you should call (not visit) your GP or ring the national Coronavirus Health Information Hotline on 1800 020 080.